i can now say i’ve been a teenager for six months (considering 16 marks the beginning of being a teenager bc anything before that doesn’t count) and i like to think i’m doing a pretty good job at it. Though, i wanted to think about the struggles this new chapter in the crazy novel i call life has had.
in my 16th year of life i wanted to make it a point to invest in relationships and build them. i like to think that some of my best relationships have been those created purely by God’s hand. Like dancing at the same studio for most of your childhood with someone, then being forced to go to a new school with half of new kids, both being at drill team tryouts, and sneaking a photo of her to show your mom “the girl you could swear you’ve seen before.” If those two girls becoming best friends isn’t first hand of His power then idk what is.
Though i feel i’ve deepened many relationships with amazing people, some relationships didn’t work out the same. If you look back to any middle school best friend, 8/10 you’re not still friends with them, or defiantly not as close. And if you’re like me and that statement is true for you too, know that it’s not your fault. its not theirs either. its nobodies fault. High School is known for it. it takes people and it shows them who they are, what they love, and who they are compatible to. Its like an online dating app that you never signed up for.
I adore my friends and i agree that i don’t know how we would’ve gotten close if it weren’t for High School and the hobbies we enjoy and the clubs we participate in. i say ‘we’ because most of my good friends at school are ones who dance with me or take similar classes. i think the biggest reason that relations are doomed by high school is because we let them. Though we take different classes and do different things, lets make that time that we can hangout with each other. lets make that time to invest in our relationship. (hint: it takes 2 people)
Yes. You’ll find people who understand you and your passions but unless those previous friendships are broken for good reason, don’t let them be. i also know that this is much harder said than done (as are much things that i like to talk about here, but who doesn’t like a challenge?) but the reward is a relationship. a person that no matter how long apart you spend from each other, you know that you can still text them for anything and they will be there. i think the best thing about an old friendship is that. The fact that you can still call them your person even if you don’t see them everyday.
I also know that this is nothing what i thought this post would be but its exactly what was on my heart. i have a habit of writing blog post titles and saving them so i remember what i wanted to write about. This post was titled ‘is it worth it?’ and this is what it became. to answer my pasts self question: i don’t know. i can’t tell is the waiting game that determines if your friends or not or if one of you has outgrown the other is worth the pain? all i can tell is it’s worth a shot.
so here’s to trying and to old friendships. May the other half of 16 be less confusing and double the amount of fun.
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